And where are all the stories analyzing men, their looks and their behaviors? Today for the English speakers, I'll share an interesting discussion about Russian and American men.
I know a lot of Russian men, but I've never dated one. I guess it's possible, but he would have to be progressive with modern views about women and their roles in relationships.
It will run every other Sunday, and will now be more personal, for we have decreed that it will be so.
Forever and ever – or until she gets bored with it. An American friend of mine told me on a recent visit to Moscow that sure, I can marry a Russian man, “as long as [I] know what [I’m] doing.” It wasn’t an ill-intentioned comment, but it threw me off-guard.
I always try to put off offense for as long as possible. I’m a fan of generalizations – especially darkly humorous ones. And yet, the same Westerners who would undoubtedly think it horrible to say something like, “And don’t ever marry a black dude – he’ll probably turn out to be a crack dealer,” have no problem saying what basically amounts to as the same thing when it comes to Slavic men, Russian men in particular.
Some of this stems from a familiar trope – the idea that there are these women out there who must, at all costs, be rescued by enlightened Westerners from their own husbands and boyfriends. Anyone interested in the topic is probably better off reading one of those, as opposed to this column. While the image of the Russian woman has been popularized in all sorts ways – many of them suggesting that she is an object of desire, even if it’s a dangerous desire (just look at the elaborate dance the media has done around Anna Chapman) – Russian dudes are mostly portrayed as thugs.
But then again, nobody could seriously confuse Viggo for an actual Russian (could they? But then there is also the fact that in many ways, Russian men are simply in their element in Russia, in a way that most Western dudes aren’t.
In general, I don't consider someone's ethnicity in the dating equation.
Each person is an individual, with their own unique traits.
So, here are a couple of essential rules you’ll want to follow if you want to get a second date. If you’re addressing a Russian woman you don’t know in Russian, there is only one appropriate term for it and it is “devushka,” which means “young woman.” And yes, even if the woman in question is in her late fifties, she would still be a “devushka.” Any other form of address would not just upset her, but could also be seen as an insult. In Russia, a woman expects you to pick up the bill on dates even when she is technically the one that invited you and even if you ordered a cup of coffee while she enjoyed a five-course meal with dessert.
Yes, in Paris or New York, people tend to go halfsies on a bill.