Not ready for dating

Your friends and family have warned you that he's a , or a (enter your favorite derogatory term for a bad boyfriend here) but you've written them off, believing that you're going to be the one woman that can change him into the perfect partner. If you get an invite to a party or event, and you don't have a man to bring, then you're likely to make up an excuse, send your regrets, pass up the night out and sit at home feeling sorry for yourself because you are "Then, you spend the entire night Googling "best places to meet men" and reading articles about what men find attractive instead of doing something that would make you happy (like going to the party you were invited to.) The truth is that if you did meet a great guy while in this mindset, you'd hold on so tight so quickly that you'd most likely strangle the relationship anyway.

It's what I've been waiting for a real relationship.

Do they have the time and energy to begin exploring a relationship.

If it's casual sex you're looking for, perhaps you can find it without much concern for the other person's immediate mental state, but that's a zero sum game, if you are hoping to find and nurture a new relationship. I could have a lot more friends at the moment, if I'd be willing to share my time with non-romantically-inclined women. If there's no kiss in the future, I'd rather move on to the next "potential." You see, even though we've been given back all this time, as divorced adults, we've also got a lot of work to do to recapture our essence.

Women often search desperately for a boyfriend but rarely stop to ask themselves if they are actually ready to be in a new relationship.

For whatever reason, women have been taught they are not complete if they are flying solo, believing there must be something wrong with them if they don’t have a man on their arm.