So why do people judge me when they find out that I'm not a virgin? You feel criticized by people who learn you aren't a virgin, but you might be surprised to know that some people feel criticized for just the opposite reason—because they've never had sex!
It depends on who is doing the criticism, and what their philosophy is.
The trajectory of lives and eternities are in the balance. Laying out guidelines for dating as followers of Jesus will alter lives by keeping people out of toxic and unhealthy relationships (and ultimately marriages). “The one” says you need to find the perfect person. The beauty of marriage is God sustains you despite your flaws. The shells of a shotgun are stuffed with tiny round balls. You are asked to go from a mentality that says “End a relationship as soon as difficulty arises,” to one that says, “Don’t end the relationship regardless of the difficulty that arises.” That’s a tough switch to flip. I talked to my partner about the possible outcomes. We're still best friends and we talk all the time.I still don't regret anything I've done because I know I loved my boyfriend, and I always will. I'm a 16-year-old Christian who recently gave up my virginity.I waited until I really loved my boyfriend, and I knew he loved me.