But then one cold night in November, I met a Match date in a bar in Greenwich Village.
I had a date for the next Saturday night for seven years.
Then, you go to talk to a guy you know or chat with a barista because, hey, why not.
Suddenly, your machismo-fueled man will detect a problem.
In this way, reputation is one of the driving forces behind machismo (2). makes the argument that reputation is the central element of sexual identity.
But with 87 million singles in the United States and nearly 40 million dating online, it seemed a good way to meet someone.
"No one is going to respond to someone who says they are a couch potato and likes to stay home."I was lucky. (I have friends who have been on dating sites for years.) I corresponded with 50 women and met 15 for drinks, which is recommended over meeting someone for dinner. Because if after 15 minutes you don't like the person you are stuck; and for men that means the bill as well.
“Machismo” is the unfortunate, lingering, toxic waste byproduct of a different time.
Like a cancer we thought was in remission, machismo is, unfortunately, still there, killing our cultural health. It's defined as strong masculine pride, which is just a euphemism for his perceived ability to get and keep women.