19, 2010 Study suggests 'hookups' can turn into meaningful relationships Relationships that start with a spark and not much else aren’t necessarily doomed from the get-go, new University of Iowa research suggests.In an analysis of relationship surveys, UI sociologist Anthony Paik found that average relationship quality was higher for individuals who waited until things were serious to have sex compared to those who became sexually involved in "hookups," "friends with benefits," or casual dating relationships. Going from friendship to relationship requires you to work on showing you care even more than a friend.I recommend reassuring your partner once a week for the first three months that you want this relationship.One friend (who wishes to remain anonymous lest her non-boyfriend reads this) explains: “I’ve been seeing this guy for four months now – we’re dating and see each other a couple of times a week.
He has yet to introduce you as his girlfriend or bring up being exclusive, and you're craving that "couple" title and the security that comes with it.Above all, keep the tone light and maintain open lines of communication.If you feel confident at this point that you want things to be serious, go ahead and tell him, Trespicio says."The study suggests that rewarding relationships are possible for those who delay sex.But it's also possible for true love to emerge if things start off with a more 'Sex and the City' approach, when people spot each other across the room, become sexually involved and then build a relationship." Published this month in the journal Social Science Research, the study analyzed surveys of 642 heterosexual adults in the Chicago area.