Quick backstory: We didn't meet on the job — we were dating for almost four years before we started working together (which, by the way, wasn't planned … But for about 11 months, we sat three cubes apart from one another and kept our relationship under wraps. People sometimes act differently at work than they do in their personal life. No need to send a blast email with "the news" of you and your cube-mate's new relationship.
But they happen all the time, and when they do, there are three possible outcomes: The relationship turns sour and your reputation and career take a beating; it ends, but you're both mature and cordial and don't let the breakup affect your work; or A survey by Career Builder last year revealed that nearly 40% of employees admitted to having a romantic relationship with a coworker, and almost one-third of office relationships result in marriage. We are getting married in two months.) It's up to you to figure out whether pursuing an office relationship is worth the possible consequences, good and bad. My situation was unique because we were already a couple before we started working together — but generally that isn't the case, and Lynn Taylor, a national workplace expert and the author of "Tame Your Terrible Office Tyrant: How to Manage Childish Boss Behavior and Thrive in Your Job," suggests you try being friends in-and-outside the office before you make any moves.
When it comes to dating a coworker, there's one general rule: Don't do it.
"No one wants to hear about how deeply you're in love with each other or where you went last weekend or the fight you had in the car this morning," she explains. Again — nobody wants or needs to know about what's happening with your love life.A stunning 20% of people who told Career Builder that they had dated someone at the office admitted that at least one person in the relationship was married.Perhaps that makes sense given the amount of time we spend at work: In an office relationship, you can relate to the struggles someone faces from 9 to 5, says Brownlee.(Without risking an HR violation, of course.)Crushes, in general, can be a nail-biting emotional roller coaster, but when you're crushing on someone you have to see every work day, things can get a bit awkward. Inspired by this list of what NOT to say to a work crush, here are a few conversation starters that might help you navigate the minefield of potential social gaffes and maybe even score a first date.1. Your crush will appreciate a bright start to his/her day. There's a fine line between flirting and sexual harassment so make sure what you're saying doesn't make your crush uncomfortable — the potential for embarrassment and legal repercussions is high. "This is incredibly mundane, yes, but common courtesy goes a long way.