Death of a spouse and dating

Many of your decisions will be based on your age, how long you were married before your spouse passed, and your religious practices.Grief counselors generally recommend a period of mourning, but the amount of time is ultimately up to you.It had been a year and eight months since my husband had died; my sex drive had recovered, but my heart was still hibernating. He'd been my high school sweetheart, my first and only.I'd been my husband George's caregiver as he'd succumbed to cancer. If you'd asked me then, I would have said that I'm fifty, I have 32 years of memories, I'm not interested in sex. I thought I might get a cat, once I was ready to take care of anything again.Although some say you'll need a year that may be different if your spouse was sick for a long time before his death.

All of these emotions are quite normal to have, but that does not make them easy to deal with.

And I agree, despite being raised conservatively by a widowed father who taught me that nice girls say "no."I eventually ended things with my friend. Fourteen months after George died, I decided I was ready to date. I did what I felt like regardless of any potential for a relationship. His opinions on sex apparently varied greatly when speaking to a 50-year-old widow as opposed to his teenaged daughter.

When you've lost the person you loved, the idea of dating again can seem almost unthinkable.

My brain was still deep in mourning, but other parts of me were in overdrive, reminding me that I was still alive, healthy and up for fun.

When I told one of my girlfriends about my new sex life, she said, "Good for you for getting back on the horse!