You may be wondering how you should act and what you say around your friend’s older brother.
If you’ve a friend or family member who you can trust to share your concerns in confidence this may be useful, although you’ll want to avoid this escalating into a family drama.
Knowing I had to tread lightly, I told him I thought his brother was attractive, and I wanted to get know him better. He said he appreciated me being upfront about it and just telling him what was going on.” —: If you’re going to go for a friend’s brother, honesty is the best policy.
Be upfront and clue your friend in on how you’re feeling.
Ask yourself if they were describing the same relationship but with different people would you still be feeling anxious or using words like ‘disgust’?
Doing this may help you identify what anxieties you have that are understandable but probably aren’t going to become an issue, and ones where you feel you do need to say or do something – although not necessarily with them.