Any pointers on how to help me get over this or something I should do? This reader is probably in her 20’s so go back and empathize with the fact that 99% of people in that age range care that the entire world not think they are in love with Jabba the Hut.
I then find myself looking through all her pictures and criticizing myself on everything I could change about me to be that beautiful, that maybe he could find me prettier than her.. I just cant shake that he thinks she’s prettier than me, I’m even believing it now and my self esteem is going right down the drain. (Don’t send me hate mail about how you or your husband are so self actualized that you don’t care if the whole world thinks you’re dating the ugliest person on earth.
Not ever having looked at her before I decided to look her up on facebook and yup she’s gorgeous… They don’t just judge who they are going to love and marry based on whether a woman is a 6 or an 8 on a 10 point scale. Are you attractive in general, like nobody is going to openly make fun of them for being with you? Now you need to get a different perspective and then you can hit #6 too.
I am guessing you hit 5 of 6 of these requirements by virtue of the fact that your husband seems to have chosen you, decided to procreate with you, and even cares about your feelings enough to lie about having dated the hottest woman on earth prior to you.
I took this group in through my peripherals and noticed the ladies were all wearing sky-high stilettos and ultra-chic outfits.
I also noticed their husbands were all shorter than they were; I wondered if it was because of the heels.
You strive to be your true self, and that makes you irresistible. Are you going to go into an emotional tailspin if they don’t lie well enough about telling you that you’re hotter than their supermodel ex-girlfriend, that they didn’t even marry? Till we meet again, I remain, the Blogapist Who Says Looks Aren’t Everything Visit Dr. In fact, that’s the most common thing I hear from confused and angry women whose husbands have cheated: “She isn’t even that pretty! Just kidding, also if you’re actually compatible with them. Be happy that your husband cares enough to try to lie about this, and also that he is such a bad liar, because if he ever does anything really bad, you’ll know right away. And say my mantras, every day, until you just don’t care about her anymore. ’ Everyone dates everyone, for lots of reasons we can’t understand. Sexuality isn’t a perfect puzzle, like, ‘He has a nice nose and she has a nice nose! And so they’re going to live happily ever after in a house that was purchased with their modeling money!