Furthermore, this "testing phase" also helps a man who could be "torpe", a Filipino term for a suitor who is shy, "stupid", and feels cowardly, and is innocent and naïve in how to court a woman.However, this type of admirer could overcome his shyness and naivety by asking for the help of a "tulay" (Filipino for "Bridge", whose role is similar to that of the Wingman in Western Cultures), typically a mutual friend of both the suitor and the admired, or a close friend of both families.It is one of the most precious gift that a Filipina lady has, being a family-oriented individual.
This teasing phase actually helps in circumventing such an embarrassing predicament because formal courtship has not yet officially started.
They find it is easier to get by when they live close to their relatives.
Filipinos love to help their parents and their siblings financially or are obliged to provide endless support.
Long before the Soviet Union fell, many American men had already discovered the charm and beauty of Filipina women and have made them their wives.
The men were typically in the Military and stationed in the Philippines throughout the decades.