Couples get together with the very best of intentions, full of hopes and dreams, white picket fences, 2.5 kids, or even a penthouse uptown.A life together, a future as a team, and perhaps some little people added to the mix.That's what was running through my head when I walked up the aisle almost 18 years ago, anxious, teary and excited to take the next step in my life with the woman I loved.Then we had one, two, three children and somehow bringing tiny little people into the mix didn't make our relationship any easier, didn't help us find a common ground and get along smoothly.Every parent knows this, but you have to find out yourself anyway: having a child is hugely stressful on a relationship. We talked, we tried different approaches to parenting, we worked with counselors, we went to workshops and seminars.But that fateful day came to pass where we just realized that, kids or no kids, we were really not making it as a couple and were both perpetually unhappy and resentful. Theoretically, to have a break from each other, but I could read the writing on the wall and started preparing myself for what ended up being a long, contentious divorce.
It was just so difficult to be a full-time dad and to make ends meet," he recalls.Whether you're six months post-divorce or six years, there is no "right" time to start dating. If you're dying to get out of the house, call your girlfriends for a night out. If you're looking to get your heart pounding, try some cardio."Perhaps a better question than when is why," says Christine Baumgartner, relationship coach at The Perfect Catch. Expecting dating to fulfill all your needs is unrealistic and might attract (or cause you to accept) people who aren't right for you.Because of the environment in which I live, a strict Muslim country which devalues, segregates, and oppresses women to a degree I thought not possible in a modern society, I am reluctant to bring her here to live, to be exposed daily to this bigotry.But as her sole parent I also cannot stand to be away from her for months at a time.