There is a specific reason why these women are drawn to a nice-guy type over other types of personality.
You will find an important clue in the name we commonly use to label men with this kind of personality.
The type of personality that so often gets caught up in a relationship with a woman with traits of BPD is what we might call a “nice guy” type.
Treatment for Borderline Personality Disorder varies for each person, but with the right amount of care, work, dedication, and love, your relationship can even survive BPD.
I think a lot of guys come to this forum because they have in one way or another dated a woman with a borderline.
- all of her exes are *******s or abusive, she's had numerous burnout relationships but the breakup NEVER had anything to do with her Roll Eyes - can't hold down jobs ...usually it's their boss was trying to get in their pants or some bull**** - likes pain from tattoos,piercings in weird places, kinky sex, etc - rebound relationships- there is always another guy and her bed never gets cold. Sometimes just goes cold overnight - extremely sensitive, starts crying over bull****..flips out when you don't text her back in time really scared of abandonment - poor relationship with her mother or an abusive mother - they see ghosts, believe in magic, etc - usually have some sort of music running through their head *always pick 4 crew* *conservative crew* *son or coathanger crew* *women shouldn't be allowed to vote crew* *always tells the truth even if it hurts crew* Some people cry and some people die by the wicked ways of love But I'll just keep on rolling along with the grace of the Lord above No empathy, no feeling, empty at the core of their personality/soul Manipulative, lying, triangulates relationships Makes you feel like the king n then devalues you, causes you to wonder where that person went that you knew aka "splitting" A lot a girls do it several times in the initial few days/weeks to see how far you will go; they do it even to the handsome guys they are interested in.
This is called "playing hard to get." She wants men to think that she is not easily impressionable and she thinks it makes her more desirable to him, while at the same time fails to realize that she is on a very thin line and she could lose him forever and settle for someone less. A lot a girls do it several times in the initial few days/weeks to see how far you will go; they do it even to the handsome guys they are interested in. What I'm talking about is pushing away stemming from not being able to get close to people, having to do with being afraid and self worth. All the sudden drama is being stirred up, fighting, chaos, etc. youre left thinking "wtf happened to the person I used to know." Then (she's afraid of abandonment) she's nice, kind, sweet, to pull you back and you get a glimmer of hope, then the cycle repeats itself.