But there are considerations to bear in mind when embarking on this type of scenario.“It’s important to spend time by yourself to reflect on what’s happening in your relationship and what you want the outcome to be,” says Laura Bilotta, a Toronto-based matchmaker and dating coach. This will help set expectations and hopefully set the path for a smooth break.“Before deciding on taking a break, however, you need to set boundaries and discuss how it will play out.”You shouldn’t request a break in a moment of anger, sit down with your partner and have a frank discussion about why it’s necessary.“Determine what the break will mean to you and what it will mean to your partner,” Bilotta says. This is also the time to discuss logistics like how long the break should last and whether you should remain in contact.
Jaime and Joe had one of those summertime romances that only exist in New York, filled with drinks that turn into lengthy dinners, evenings out with friends, and even trips to the gym that somehow still felt incredibly romantic. It was the quintessential “it’s not you, it’s me” speech.
Now, in a case of life imitating art, David Schwimmer and his wife have announced that they’re taking a break from their marriage to “determine the future of [their] relationship,” reports.“The essence of a break is to give time to each member of a couple to reevaluate what they want,” says Lesley Edwards, a dating expert and relationship coach in Toronto.
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The on-again, off-again relationship is a staple for many 20-somethings because it’s often a time of self-discovery and personal growth, which can be directly at odds with long-term commitment, says Rebecca Hendrix, a marriage and family therapist based in New York.
“I think it can be really healthy to separate, have some life experiences, date other people, go to grad school,” she says.