Finding Balance Boosting Your Confidence Community Q&A Have you ever been described as needy or clingy?
Do you get so excited about a new friendship or relationship that you bombard the other person with attention, only to find that the person starts to seem distant?
Changing your clingy ways isn’t just about giving your partner space, it’s also about creating space for yourself and distancing yourself from some of those driving, distressing emotions. If you stop being so clingy and your love interest remains elusive or continues to pull away, have the courage to move on. Just as the person you fall in love with deserves the chance to be part of a cohesive couple, so do you.
Realizing that your partner’s need for space isn’t unreasonable—that it’s good for you, too—can help you loosen your grip.
These are good indicators that you may be in the clingy zone. If your sweetheart is craving space, the signs include less eye contact, less physical touch, shallow or brief conversations and a “keep your distance” posture like crossed legs or arms. Sign up for a class, join a small group, or pursue a passion or talent that is yours and yours alone. A good rule of thumb is to match—not exceed—the energy, attention, and effort your partner is investing in your relationship.
When we’re convinced we’re not getting “enough” from a partner and we’re starving for more, it’s natural to become clingy. Feed your need—for conversation, companionship, affirmation, whatever—from more than one source.
I was not saying, Hey ladies: If you've felt an extreme emotional hangover after having sex too early on in a "relationship," why not take a step back?
See Step 1 to learn how to find the source of your neediness and gain the confidence to tone it down. These words are all the pieces missing from my puzzle.Needy people receive unkind words, behavior that say's "your not so important to me,"and less and less affection as their relationship goes on.People who are not needy would end a relationship if they felt like that. People who have a needy partner can do whatever they want because although needy people complain, they don't leave.terms hence anything above and beyond that is ‘too much’.Some people make their partners the centre of the universe and make them their sole focus placing all their needs at their door – codependency.