Since a little Dating 101 is never a bad thing, I'm going to share a few tips and pointers for men who are trying to attract a girl or get a date.I’ll be the first to admit: I write most of my articles with a male audience in mind. well, I’m a guy, and a lot of my advice is naturally going to be coming from a male perspective and male experiences. As a general rule, women are more socialized towards being willing to ask for help when trying to improve their chances with guys.When we go through the motions of dating, we’re evaluating one another on a number of levels – physical attractiveness and facial symmetry as indicators of health and desirable traits, the ability to provide for young and to protect the young from predators and raise them to sexual maturity.In theory, it should be fairly simple; dude with the brightest plumage, women with the best child-bearing hips, 10 minutes of squishy noises and then a whole lot of controversy as to whether primates pairbond monogamously or polygamously. Well, if you want quality guys, you’re going to put the effort into the profile.
It’s no coincidence that so many of our Tinder profiles declare that we’re not looking for a pen pal; we’re looking to get to the point, because we don't have time to waste. With a social-media-enabled world out there offering new matches and distractions, waiting three days, or even 24 hours, to reply to a text is as antiquated as sending a carrier pigeon.
Don’t put pressure on yourself to be witty, smart or alluring.
First impressions matter, yes, but so does comfort. Pick an outfit that makes you feel great, look great, doesn’t reveal too much and is age-appropriate. But while you’re on the date, show off your social etiquette skills.) 4. Your friends and Twitter followers are not invited on the date. You’ll have plenty of time in the future to figure out gender-role stuff if you develop a relationship.
But because we had to go and evolve and develop complex brains and societies, we had to go and make it all complicated and shit; what used to be instinctual has become confusing, and we end up overanalyzing it…if a woman is interested in a guy, shouldn’t she be willing to make the first move – after all, it physical at first, or can there be an emotional connection as well? Your online dating profile is your verbal equivalent of a peacock’s lustrous plumage When you’re writing your profile, think about the sort of guy you’re looking for; while guys in general are wider ranging in the types they’re willing to date (or bang), there will be plenty who have a narrower focus. As I’ve advised guys before, if you want a type, you have to be able to show yourself as someone who that type would be attracted to; think if it as proving that you know how to speak their language.
If it’s been a while since you’ve been on a first date, here are a few pointers to ensure your next one is a success. Don’t get caught up in the version of yourself you wish you were.